Has Pinterest changed your life? It has sure changed mine. In several different ways. For one, it has helped me bit a more stylish.
I have an easy time looking at someone else’s already-pulled-together outfit and saying, “Yes! That is cute!” But to go into my closet and pull it together myself is really hard for me.
I bought a black maxi skirt a couple of months ago, and now I can search Pinterest and get several different ideas about what to wear with it. And then go back in my closet with those clear examples and find out if I have what I need to pull the outfit together. If I don’t, I can go buy one piece of the outfit that I need, with confidence.
I can’t tell you how many times I looked at something in a store and thought it was adorable, and at a great price, but I didn’t purchase it because I couldn’t visualize what I could wear it with.
Now with Pinterest, I browse there first, see what’s in style, and all the different ways to wear it, and then keep an eye for a good price for the item when I am shopping.
So Pinterest has helped with the logistics, but at the same time I am experiencing an internal shift that is manifesting outwardly with my style.
I am not sure if it is a delayed manifestation of the new me as a mother. Or if I am more at ease with my body (I am about 15 pounds lighter than I was before I even got pregnant with Penelope) and more comfortable wearing things other than dumpy sundresses and t-shirt and jeans.
Whatever it is, one thing is for sure: there is change going on. I want to feel cute and stylish, but I don’t want to look like a stuck up [email protected] And I want to be comfortable.
And I would like to be authentic. I want to be able to find my own style, not just copy outfits from Pinterest. This is probably a long way off, since I am still working on the courage to just get out of the house in something cute and not being mortified that someone might actually notice me.
Part of me not putting a lot of effort into my appearance has been about me wanting to play it safe (as in no one will hurt me, if they don’t even notice me) and not draw any attention to myself. With my new confidence that is emerging, I realize how shy and walled up I really was.
I used to feel as if people may not like me if I am cute, dressed well and seen as the “pretty girl”. Or that dressing well was flashy and snobby. I think there is such an undercurrent in our culture, that pretty girls are not nice and not smart. I have many distinct memories from when I was young, young girl of other girls making fun of me for wearing nice clothes or being pretty.
And my mother was the consummate pretty girl, southern beauty queen style. So not being pretty was a way to rebel against everything she is. And maybe even a way to
my father, since me being pretty always seemed to be one of the things he was most proud of. Not that I felt that was the only thing he was proud of, but you know how kids always their parents to see if they are really unconditionally loved…
I also felt conflicted in the past, as if because of my eco/green/alternative lifestyle choices, I felt like I wasn’t allowed to dress stylish and only had the option of traditional “hippy” clothes. How in the world can someone who ate her own placenta (me, if ya’ll missed that one) wear Tory Burch shoes too? If January Jones can do it, so can I.
Also, being stylish is a way I am taking care of myself and showing myself that I am worthy. I am trying to take the time to get dressed and put on something cute that will make me feel good and happy. Not that you need to look or be a certain way to feel good about yourself, but you know what I mean, right? When you put on a dress that you look good in, you just feel good. And you go about your day in a different attitude and mindset.
How has motherhood changed your style? Have you ever wanted to dress more stylish but been afraid?