Planning a home birth takes a lot of courage, just like doing anything against social norm – it takes courage to break away from the pack. It’s not for everyone, and I do believe that a woman should birth where she feels the most safe. But my wish for women is what Becky is doing right now as she grapples with her decision about where to give birth: that they look very honestly at whether or not the hospital offers a true feeling of safety or the illusion of safety. -Stephanie
I’m officially in my first-ever second trimester – bring on the baby belly and my new obsession with delivery questions. Can I afford a doula? Do I really like my doctor? How to ingest the placenta? Hospital or home birth?
My current hospital is Cedars-Sinai, also known by LA locals as Beverly Hills’ celebrity C-Section factory. Jessica Simpson recently booked the luxe $4,000-a-day birthing suites there, and a lot of non-celebs do the same. When I told my OB I wanted a natural birth he glanced at me skeptically and said that 98% of women at Cedars choose the epidural. This is WAY above the 42.5% average in California according to the CDC.
Then, I watched “The Business of Being Born” and a moment of clarity hit me. I want to do screaming labor yoga in my living room! I want to dunk myself into a giant kiddie pool! I want to sleep in my own bed! My husband’s parents were part of a natural birth movement in Santa Barbara, California in the late-70’s. He is one of three successful home births. Why not carry on this tradition?
Because, well, I have fears of something going terribly wrong. Several people I know claimed their baby would not have survived home birth, and I know of someone who lost her baby after failed resuscitation. I don’t mean to be Debbie Downer, but it’s hard not to consider the worst case scenario.
With a home birth, we’d have an ideal environment for one of the most important events of our lives. But, the fighter in me would love to have a natural delivery at Cedars just to prove to my Beverly Hills nurses and OB that I can do it – or maybe I just need to prove it to myself.