I do not want to terrify all you pregnant women out there as I tell my story of what has become the craziest ride of my life. Full of ups and downs, highs and lows and moments that I may or may not have absolutely lost all sense of reality (let’s call it what it was, I lost my SH#T!)
So, instead of sharing the details of why I have been on bed rest since 21 stinking weeks (baby is here and healthy, hallelujah), I will share some tips on how to cope IF you find yourself on bed rest.
TIPS FOR BED REST SURVIVAL
- Give up and stop trying to figure out why this is happening to you. You’ll never figure it out and once you just let life run its course, it will go much more smoothly.
- Pick a craft or hobby you can do while laying down. For me, it was knitting. I found a lady who would come to my house and teach me to knit. I enlisted my mom to procure yarn and just the “project” of it all kept me in some what of a sane place. I kid you not, once I finished my first knitting project and a few days had past, I lost it. I cried, then I cried some more, and while in the midst of losing it, my mom said “oh Honey, I need to get you some yarn.”
- Good books are a must. You can only watch so much Bravo before you start to feel icky. I have read a lot of books. A LOT! My list consisted of Beautiful Creatures, Drinking and Tweeting, Where We Belong, The Good House, the lists goes on and on. Some side notes on reading while on bed rest, DO NOT read Ffity Shades of Grey or any such book, you my dear, will not be engaging in any of that for a while so don’t torture yourself. Also DO NOT read any books about loosing babies, babies with disabilities, scary pregnancies, non of that. You are living your own story and those can make you more fearful than you already are.
- Take an online course. If Stephanie’s eCourse, From Maiden to Mother had been out while I was on bed rest it would have been perfect. But now it’s out and you can experience it.
- Are you a control freak, type A, like to control everything person? Um, yeah me too. Take it from me, the amount of things you can control from the couch are very limited. SO….. it is in your best interest and the best interest of all those helping to care for you to let go. Your house will not be up to your standards, your mother will inevitably not buy the right blueberries and at some point you will have visions of harming them all. And let’s be real, they are probably having visions of putting you and the couch on the curb.
- Online shopping is dangerous. And really, for me, not as satisfying. Nothing can compare to the smell of a Target for me. So try not to spend hours shopping online for frivolous things. Now, I had to online shop for baby necessities (car seats and such, better prices, too!), but as far as clothes and stuff go, you never know what you’re getting online and it can be frustrating. Some of the places the scored the best deals are Preppy Parents, and Albee Baby, and of course the wonderfully addicting Zulily.
- Remind yourself daily (or hourly, or every minute if you have to) why you are doing this. For whatever reason, you are fighting to keep a little life growing and thriving inside you and laying down all day everyday is your little peanut’s best shot. Years from now, this will be a drop in the bucket, and you will know you would have done much more than just lay around to bring that precious being into this world.
- If you are allowed, get up in the morning and brush your teeth and hair. Change out of your PJs and into lounge wear or just new PJS. I swear, once I figured this out, my days were so much better. You can really start to feel like crud laying around day after day in your PJs feeling like shit and looking like it, too. It should only take a couple minutes and for me it was worth every second. I would even slap on some BB cream and under eye concealer just for myself. I would see myself in the mirror while emptying my bladder for the 100th time and think WOWZA, she looks rough.
Some of these may seem like DUH things, but I’m telling you that something happens to all your sensibilities while on bed rest worrying for your unborn child and all rational thoughts can simply leave you. If you happen to need some of these tips, I wish you and your baby all the best.