Let’s Talk About My Potty Mouth

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Sooooo….can we talk curse words for a minute?

I have been cussing on my blog since I very first started blogging back in 2009. As M+BL grew, I started getting emails like this:

“You are so awesome, I love you so much, but why do you have to cuss, can you please stop?”

To which I would reply: “I never curse at a person or use my words to hurt anyone, I only curse to be funny. I curse to myself when I stub my toe, or curse at my blender when it stops working and I am trying to make something for my kid.”

According to Catholicism, it’s a sin to curse AT a person and to use words in a hurtful way, but it is not a sin to curse and use the words in communication to simply communicate or tell a story.

Thing is, a lot of Protesants (a large grouping of Christians, ie: Anglicans, Baptists, Lutherans, Methodists, and Presbyterians) believe that any type of cursing is a sin, whether you are using the words to be funny or to actually hurt someone. I just found this out, since I am Catholic (albeit I am not devout and tend to be a little bit too liberal to fit in well).

Once I found that out, I realized why people were getting so upset about it! I just couldn’t understand what the big deal was before!

The other week I got a comment on the M+BL Facebook page that was not very nice. She told me she was not going to buy my cookbook because I curse on the blog. And that I “looked so nice in my pictures, but that nice looks don’t make up for a dirty mouth.”  Then a couple of other people commented on it saying things like “Yeah! I agree!”. And one even said she reported me to the LDS church. I guess there is an LDS magazine that recommended my cookbook or something.

In typical fashion, I responded: “You are welcome to do what you want with your money, you don’t have to be here, no one does. But for the record, I don’t just look nice, I AM nice. And FYI, bullying me and threatening me is NOT nice.”

I never curse in front of my child or at my child, or at any one human, animal, or plant. I never use my words to hurt someone. Now my words may be hurtful to some when I use them to tell the truth. I am known for telling it straight. So I will tell you exactly how I feel about you, even if it may hurt a bit to hear the truth.

Some people have said that I come off crude, ungraceful, or uneducated by using cuss words.

Calah, from the blog Patheos, has a great article about why she, as a devout Catholic and highly educated woman and mom, loves to cuss. She could not have explained her – or my own – feelings any better:

I really do love certain cuss words. “Hell” is a particular favorite of mine. So is “shit”. And nothing has quite the same pizazz as a well-placed “asshat.” And yet, you don’t see blog posts from me chock full of profanity. This post has more profanity in it than I usually use in a month. When I use those words, it’s because of the connotation they have. It’s because there’s a certain je ne sais quoi about them in whatever sentence I happen to be constructing that cannot be duplicated by using another word. I know this, because I always reach for the less offensive word first, particularly because I know some people are very sensitive to cussing. (Sorry, Mom.) I strongly disagree with those who say that using those words means I can’t think of another way to express myself. I can think of other ways, but no other way would express it just right. A less colorful, less accurate word chosen solely on the chance that the word I mean might offend someone doesn’t cut it for me. In fact, I love language enough to say what I really mean and not dance around it with lackluster substitutes.

But I don’t want to be the kind of person who just says, “No, you are wrong and I am right, and I will keep on cursing and that is the end of that”. So I have contemplated this subject for almost a year. I asked advice from friends, collegues, and Catholic mamas who I respect, trying to decide if I would stop cursing on M+BL and even go back to edit all of my past posts that have curse words in them.

In case anyone is curious, I probably drop one curse word a week, if that. Now if you were talking to me in person, and you are a close friend, it might be 2 curse words per sentence depending on what we’re talking about. I have always loved telling stories, and I love to get animated, use colorful language to entertain, and make someone laugh or engage them in my story. It shouldn’t be a secret; curse words sometimes help do that.

Here is what I have come up with as a compromise, because while I don’t believe I am sinning, I do not want to hurt or offend anyone and I do take your concerns to heart:

  • I will not drop an F-bomb in this space ever again. The only time I have ever used the F-word in a post was in my miscarriage post and that will stay. There is absolutely no other word that can describe what I was feeling when I was in my bathroom, as the miscarriage began, tears streaming down my face, anger boiling up within and me thinking (to myself) that it is F****** BULLSHIT that I am about to give birth to a dead baby. But other than that post, you will not see that word here ever.
  • I won’t use the words asshole or bitch either. Even though they can be SO funny sometimes.
  • These are the curse words I will use on very rare occasions when truly no other word will convey what I want: shit, crap, hell, and damn. 

I will do my best to substitute those words with things like you-know-what, hoot, dern, darn, heck, etc. But if those words do not convey and tell the story with the kind of emphasis that it needs I will use a curse word.

You can rest assured that I will never curse at child, animal, or person. I am not saying I am perfect and that I have never said something mean to a person or about a person. I have called my husband an a-hole on several occasions in our almost decade of being together, and I have called some women the b word, not to their face, but when confiding in my husband or a close friend about that person’s behavior, but I go to confession like a good Catholic and I know that is wrong. I am sorry for it and have done things to right that sin.

Also FYI, I do not curse in front of a child or take the Lord’s name in vain. Again, I am not perfect and there have been slip ups, but on a whole, it’s of my moral constitution to not curse in front of child or take the Lord’s name in vain. When Penelope starts developing her own story telling and communication style, I plan on being very honest and direct with her. I will let her know cursing is not a sin, but that she will need to be respectful of her surroundings and of course I will teach her that it is a sin to curse AT someone. I might feel very differently about all of this the day Penelope starts dropping an f-bomb when she stubs her toe at the house, but for now this is the plan.

Part of my decision to continue to curse is that this website is not a pretty, cleaned up version of me. It’s just me. I have always been blessed with the ability to be real and tell the truth. I don’t know how to function any other way. When communicating I don’t know how to lie, or filter, or tone things down, or beat around the bush. I don’t have time for that shit! I have things to do! A family to tend to, dreams to fullfill. If you come across me, you are gonna get me.

So for now the cursing stays but I will keep it to the absolute bare minimum, but I am gonna keep being me.

And like Ellen says, my haters are my motivators. Like Ellen, even though I am not perfect and I don’t fit in a pretty little box that sometimes people want me to stay in,  I am all about love and kindness to all humans, telling the truth and keeping it real.

I hope this post and my compromises makes you feel better if you don’t like it when I curse, and I hope that you will stick around regardless of a few damns, hells and shits around here, because there is so much good stuff here! If not, I understand, and this is not the community for you and I wish you well.

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  • Elizabeth
    February 13, 2013 at 2:48 PM

    I personally do not curse, it has just never been a part of my vocabulary BUT I have no right to judge others for doing so. The reason I read your blog is because you write so honestly…good for you! 🙂

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:00 AM

      Thank you so much! So glad to hear that.

  • sarah
    February 13, 2013 at 2:48 PM

    I heart curse words 🙂

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:00 AM

      lol, yeah, me too. They had my heart a long time ago!

  • Stephanie
    February 13, 2013 at 3:13 PM

    I personally LOVE reading your blog and part if it is how funny and honest you are INCLUDING the curse words. People need to lighten up a bit…they are words used in a funny way. Keep doing what you are doing! Love you and your blog!

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:01 AM

      Thanks Stephanie!

  • Rachel A
    February 13, 2013 at 4:17 PM

    I hate that some members of my church are so closed-minded and rude. I am LDS and heaven knows I am not curse-free. My husband and I both let a few minor curse words slip on occasion. Like you, we don’t do it in front of our child. I find it completely ridiculous to judge others on anything, let alone something as trivial as a word. I love your blog and would read it even if you dropped the “f-bomb” in every post! Keep up the good work!

    • Erin
      February 14, 2013 at 2:02 AM

      Another LDS (Mormon) reader here–just wanted to chime in and support the fact that the person who “reported you” to the LDS Church (assuming that means The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints) doesn’t represent all of us. And believe me, at the crossroads of motherhood, health, kids, food, and slow cookers are a lot of Mormon women reading this blog! (And also, there’s no basis or process of “reporting” in this church–and the magazine which they might have referred to isn’t an official magazine of the Church, either.)

      I believe in honest writing, though I appreciate clean writing. I’m not offended by your curse words, but I think your efforts not to use the worst of them is great! To me, it’s more important not to take the Lord’s name in vain than to drop a few choice four-letter words. And you’re probably well aware that your blog is faaaaaaaaar from the dirty ones I’ve come across. I find it pretty uplifting, actually.

      Thanks for being so respectful, and I hope your readers return you the favor. As another commenter pointed out, you’re providing this content for free. There are no gateways to reading; therefore, the exit is also wide open if someone feels uncomfortable here. 🙂

      • heather
        February 14, 2013 at 3:38 AM

        i concur! as another LDS reader i cringed when i read it was someone from the LDS church who “reported” you. what is that? i love your blog and if something offends me (which it never has) then i won’t read it. it’s not like people are being forced to read it! and guuuuuurl, sometimes you just gotta let one fly! keep being yourself! we like ya that way! 🙂

        • Stephanie
          February 15, 2013 at 1:02 AM

          Thanks ladies. I certainly don’t think that the actions of person in the LDS church represent the whole religion, because, ahem, what would that say about mine?! lol. Anyway, thanks so much for your support.

  • Maureen
    February 13, 2013 at 4:22 PM

    I heart curse words, too, and thing it’s hysterical in the way you cuss. Curse words enhance stories, IMO, and I’m sorry you’ve been given crap about it.

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:02 AM

      Thanks Maureen.

  • VickiF
    February 13, 2013 at 4:27 PM

    Ditto to what Sarah says. Cursing is the best. Not in front of children though.

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:03 AM


  • Amanda M.
    February 13, 2013 at 5:56 PM

    WOW. People REALLY need to lighten up. And perhaps leave all the judgments to the man upstairs. Sheesh. I love this blog because you’re writing is awesome – shits and all. The other thing is, if a person doesn’t like it, then they need to stay away. Example: strip clubs are not my cup of tea so I don’t go. Duh. Seriously.

  • Nicole Nelms
    February 13, 2013 at 6:10 PM

    I am so sorry that people have made you feel like you cannot be yourself on your own blog. I would say to hell with them and be true to yourself. We have become such a “PC” world in which at every turn someone imposes their own beliefs on you. If what I say or do offends someone then it is best that we do not run in the same circles. There is no way to make everyone happy! What if people told them they wouldn’t read their blogs because they were offended about them talking about their religion, would they stop! I seriously doubt it so why should you stop saying what YOU want to say. I support you know matter what!

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:03 AM


  • Liz
    February 13, 2013 at 6:13 PM

    The curse words are what make you YOU! They, among other things, are what initially drew me to your blog. You were honest, funny, intelligent, and had everything out there. Delicate eyes can look away and elsewhere. That’s why this world is so gol durned fabulous! <—see that? No curse words!

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:04 AM

      Thanks so much for letting me know! I am so glad I wrote this post, it was really stressing me out thinking that everyone did not like it when I cursed!

  • Maria
    February 13, 2013 at 6:33 PM

    The curse words don’t bother me at all!

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:05 AM

      Well, sister, you are in the right place then!

  • Amelia
    February 13, 2013 at 6:59 PM

    You can’t please everybody so you might as well be yourself! If people take issue, it is their problem to deal with. Of course I agree that we should strive to always be kind and respectful of others’ feelings, but as you said, there is no obligation for anyone to be here. You put your content out for FREE and it is up to us if we want to read it and/or support you by buying your products. I certainly do enjoy it and love your cookbook! Thanks for all you do!

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:06 AM

      That is for damn! I had to learn that lesson the hard way a couple of years ago. It really bothers me when people don’t like me, because I think they just misunderstand me, but at the end of the day, some people will just not like you and that is OK!

  • kate
    February 13, 2013 at 8:41 PM

    You shouldn’t have to change yourself to please anyone. I love that you are YOU and that’s what keeps me coming back to your blog. If someone doesn’t like it they have the freedom to not read your blog. Plain and simple. You may choose to not use the f-word on your blog anymore but the comment section is kind of a free for all (granted you can delete comments but whatever) so I just wanted to say:

    You fucking rock. 😉

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:07 AM

      YOU fucking rock!!

      • amie hammond
        May 22, 2013 at 3:40 AM

        So, I found your blog today, via just eat real food (who are promoting your cookbook this evening) and after reading this post am so sorry to see that Kate beat me to the punch 🙂 but she IS right, and thanks for sharing it all, tidy or not!!

  • Angela
    February 13, 2013 at 10:26 PM

    I think the only sentence needed for this whole post was the last half of your last sentence, “and this is not the community for you and I wish you well.” 😉

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:07 AM

      lol, well that certainly would have been easier!

  • Christen
    February 14, 2013 at 1:24 AM

    I do not use cuss words because of my personal convictions, however, this is your blog to use as you wish. If people are offended by things you write then they shouldn’t read it….just saying:)

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:08 AM


  • Katrina
    February 14, 2013 at 1:27 AM

    What the hell??!!! What’s this crap I’m hearing about no more curse words on this blog? Lol. Seriously though, your occasional curse words do not offend me in the least. I find it humorous at times and much needed at others. So now you’re gonna stop? Damn!!

    I actually do not cuss on my blog. The reason is that I write the way I speak, and there are only a few bad words that I ever speak and those are crap and damn. I guess those are curse words, but not as “bad” as some others? I guess. So on my blog I use those words from time to time. But that’s just me, that’s my blog and that’s me. I honestly would never visit another persons blog and suggest they change their style or the words they use. I’m surprised you’ve gotten such bold comments from others.

    • Misty
      February 14, 2013 at 2:15 AM

      I know, I don’t get it. If you say “shoot”, you’re technically cursing, right? “You bugger!” is the same exact thing as “You bitch!” you’re just using a different word, it’s still cursing at a person. Freak, frack, fudge, frig all mean fuck even if they’re not the same exact word. You could curse in German and most Americans aren’t going to know you cursed, but they’re still curses and still bad. It’s all about intention.

      • heather
        February 14, 2013 at 3:44 AM

        holy crap! when i first met the person who is my now bestie, we were out shopping and she started cursing in german! i about died laughing because i knew what she was saying. she said that in all her 30 years of living in this area i was the first one who understood what she said! it is all about intention!

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:08 AM

      Oh girl, I am not gonna stop, just maybe gonna tone it down a wee bit, but def gonna keep on being me!

  • Tiffany C.
    February 14, 2013 at 1:27 AM

    Holy Hell! I can’t believe people give you a hard time for cursing on your own blog.

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:10 AM

      Right?! Some of them really were nice about it, and were very kind in their delivery, I guess in a concerned for my soul kind of way, but some were just mean.

  • Julie
    February 14, 2013 at 1:29 AM


    Anyone who thinks you aren’t nice has never met you! You radiate warmth, caring and generosity. Your blog is a reflection of YOU which is why you have a lot of readers and followers. You read as REAL! I have a Christian-themed blog on Fruit of the Spirit. I’m not cursing on my blog because I don’t think it fits with what I’m writing about. But if I were blogging about my day-to-day life that might be a different story. The judgmental people should stuff a sock in it! 🙂

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:11 AM

      You tell ’em, Julie!

  • Katie
    February 14, 2013 at 1:41 AM

    Your cussing (along with going into details about things SO many other people wouldn’t dare to reveal) is you being you — honest, straight forward and like you said, you’re HELPING, you’re NOT hurting. I understand why you’re compromising, but it frankly sucks that you feel you have too for those who are verbally judging you for YOUR life choices (this is YOUR blog after all, they didn’t have to continue reading after the first cuss word if it makes that big of a difference in their minds).

    Your blog is amazing and the rawness of it and how much your personality comes through makes it more unique than any other blog I follow. Many bloggers do push themselves into “that pretty little box” you mentioned, but that’s NOT REAL. Keep being you and true followers will continue to follow because we want the REAL Stephanie, not some censored Stephanie that if I met you in real life would think, “You are not at all who I thought you’d be” after a 30 minute conversation. So many bloggers almost seem like robots and honestly, even with videos and such, I don’t know them or connect with them on a level that I connect with you in being so honest and straightforward about everything from cussing, to bumps in your marriage (that EVERYONE has), labor/delivery and ALL that goes into it (what even your BFF”s won’t tell you).

    Keep on keeping on Stephanie! 🙂 ALL MY BEST!

  • Jackie
    February 14, 2013 at 1:43 AM

    Shit! Hell, damn, and crap are curse words too? Well then I’m f*cked 🙂

    I could never write a blog, clearly, but I love reading yours. Keep up the great work!

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:23 AM

      Thanks for reading and commenting Jackie, so glad to have you here!

    • Kathy at Granny's Vital Vittles
      February 15, 2013 at 2:42 PM

      Well, I didn’t know there were still people in this world that think ‘hell’ is a cuss word till I used it in a post. I love language too and can tell you that’s how many a Texas grandma would have delivered it! Got a few complaints about it. My mamma is a southern lady who near fainted dead away if a cuss word crossed my lips … so I learned well not to cuss as a kid. Feels kind of unnatural when I do it, but I don’t mind at all if you want to Stephanie 🙂 or anyone else for that matter.

      • Stephanie
        February 15, 2013 at 2:50 PM

        Aw, your from Texas you probably get to say one of my favorite things a lot, “horse shit!” 🙂

        • Kathy at Granny's Vital Vittles
          February 15, 2013 at 7:53 PM

          I’ve heard that one many times straight from many a Texas granny’s mouth 🙂

  • Karla
    February 14, 2013 at 1:51 AM

    I have to agree there are times that no other words will do justice and some days are crap and if we don’t blog about them people may just start to think we live in a la di da magazine pictured house, not the real world, and what fun would that be!? I am a Christian and I swear and cuss and I don’t think I should pretend to be someone I’m not in my blog, my life or even in church. I am me, all the time and everywhere and I use cuss words probably more than I should, but I do and that’s just how it is. Even my mother drops a few, I was utterly shocked by it each time because it as so very rare that it really held the full ‘slap in the face’ full on meaning to it. If she were to kick her toe or drop a glass and have it smash she would exclaim “shit!” And my dearest BFF, has only heard her once and she dropped her jaw and clasped her hand over her mouth in utter shock! Ha. Good on you for being you everywhere and ll the time.

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:24 AM

      Yup, there truly are no other words that can compare sometimes.

  • Lindsay
    February 14, 2013 at 2:05 AM

    I too adore cursing…and thought I was good about NOT doing it in front of my little one until he said “sucks”the other day. Now that’s really a curse (but I say it about EVERYTHING that’s the slightest bit disappointing!) so we have changed that to “shucks”. My dirty mouth is here to stay-I will just try REALLY REALLY hard to not use it around my bun bun…which sometimes shucks…

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:26 AM

      lol. it does shuck!
      one time my husband came home from work and was complaining about a co-worker and called him a deusch bag. And then Penelope toddled around the house saying deusch bag for a couple of hours and it took all our will not to laugh hyseterically and let her keep saying it.

  • Shawna
    February 14, 2013 at 2:06 AM

    Wow, this is your blog, it’s your space, you can do what you want with it! I totally agree with your philosophy too – sometimes a curse word just makes a story more animated/dramatic/exciting. I also agree with you in not swearing in front of children. There is a time and a place for curse words. When we first adopted our son (when he was 8 months) we had to quickly clean up the language in our home. We immediately began substituting Dora and Diego for B*tch and B*st*rd – just for laughs! It was our inside joke for storytelling for awhile 🙂

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:26 AM

      that is too funny!

  • Ashley
    February 14, 2013 at 2:13 AM

    You’re too kind. If it were my blog, I’d start dropping the f bomb in every post after getting the complaints! Like someone else said, I don’t like strip clubs, so I don’t go. I don’t like watching horror films, I don’t watch them. Don’t like reading “real” thoughts, don’t f*cking read them!

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:22 AM

      Lol, one of my friends said the same thing.

  • Shannah
    February 14, 2013 at 2:55 AM

    Here’s the deal…(and I speak from personal experience)…when people feign outrage over your language, it’s not about you. It’s about them. I used to be one of “them”. I was never really “offended” by someone else cursing. I was arrogant and self-righteous and in my mind was OBVIOUSLY a much better person than they were for taking the moral high-ground and using only language that my God would approve of, therefor they needed to defer to MY morality. What they are doing, basically, is wagging their finger at you and sneering, “How DARE you curse in my presence! Can’t you tell I’m a much better person than you are!!?”

    Today, I look back at my self-righteous self and think, “What an assclown!” I was being arrogant and asinine and embarrassing myself and was so wrapped up in my purple robe and crown that I didn’t even know it. I’m so much happier to have shed that self-righteous and embarrassing cloak.

    I say to hell with ’em. You should not have to adhere to an LDS-Approved Blogosphere Lexicon for your posts. By bowing to them you are only feeding their ego. Your blog is like your home. If people don’t like what you have to say in your home, they can leave. I would NEVER presume to tell someone what language they should use in their own space. If I didn’t like it, I would just leave without feeling the need to wag my ass at them on the way out the door. But that’s just me, damn it.

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:21 AM

      That is such a great point! Thanks for sharing and being so open and honest. Love it.

  • Stephanie
    February 14, 2013 at 2:57 AM

    I f*cking love curse words! They’re real. Keep up the good work.

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:20 AM

      They are!

  • Melissa Buttry
    February 14, 2013 at 3:21 AM

    Hi Stephanie
    I am practicing catholic, momma to 3 kids (2of them teenagers), garden growing momma who cusses on a regular basis. I do try to watch it and when I drop something or forget to do something, my kids will hear me say dammit or shit or something to that nature. Like you, I don’t cus at people, but I cus nonetheless. While I hold it in around lets say a grandparenty person, other than that, I say what I say. If I acted different around everybody who didn’t like “approve” whatever about me, I would have a personality disorder. I am who I am, people can take it or leave it.

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:20 AM

      Yes! I honestly think a TON of peole do have personality disorders, too afraid to just be themselves and say what they really think. Thanks so much for commenting.

  • heather
    February 14, 2013 at 3:46 AM

    since when is crap a curse word? my kids use it all the time…

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:18 AM

      Yeah, I didn’t think it was either till my Is Chick Fila Crap Food post. Some of the emails I got about stopping cursing were specificlaly about that post! I guess to some people it is!

    • Kathy at Granny's Vital Vittles
      February 15, 2013 at 2:46 PM

      So crap is a curse word too? What’s this world coming to! 😉

  • Alvin J Eckert,Sr.
    February 14, 2013 at 4:48 AM

    Hello,I just read some of your blog,I didn’t know about it until someone posted on my FB page.There are people who don’t like anything,everything,nothing,anyone or anybody.It is ok for them to shoot off at the mouth about how you write,but I would bet if someone bitched about theirs, HELL would erupt and spew all over Earth.I will tell you I have read the Bible and GOD did quite a bit of Damning,telling people about Hell,ASS can be taken 2 ways,A female dog is a Bitch,Webster Dictionary says F. Dog and Bitchy woman —so to speak.I personally don’t care if someone curses,so what big deal,grow up and get a life or something.Really if your don’t like what she is saying then go read something else.The Internet is Just like TV if I don’t like what is on the Tube then I either change the Channel or turn the damn thing off.What exactly is so hard about that?. I happen to find her writing refreshing,kind of reminds me of me speaks their mind and don’t care.I figure if people don’t like it then it’s their personal problem,I don’t do personal problems.They will get over it,if they don’t then they won’t—too bad.Oh yes by the way—you people have the right of freedom of speech and expression—well so does she.You also have the right to remain silent,this is her blog so maybe remain silent and go somewhere else,No One has a gun to your head making you read her Blog.

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:17 AM

      Totally, just a little click and you can be gone, no need to send me an email asking me to stop!

  • Candy Shepherd
    February 14, 2013 at 5:06 AM

    I just signed up for your newsletter. It’s great reading your blog, I swear like a sailor, so my husband says. I understand!

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:15 AM

      Nice! Welcome!

  • ashley
    February 14, 2013 at 5:42 AM

    i heart cursewords. a lot. i have a mouth like a sailor. also, i want to be you when i grow up.

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:15 AM

      Well, the mouth like a sailor thing is half the battle!!

  • Kaylee
    February 14, 2013 at 6:33 AM

    Wow. I give you props for even writing this long, thoughtful, and elegant post. You should not have to defend yourself on your own blog. To quote Dirty Dancing, if you love me you have to love all of me. I completely understand what you mean about story telling and cursing. Sometimes there are just no other words to adequately express yourself or the story you’re telling at the time. Personally, I feel like this is YOUR blog and it conveys YOU and how YOU live life…the key word being YOU. If you want to cuss on your blog then go for it. If people don’t like it or respect it then that is their problem. You should not have to change who you are in your own blog to please people. If people don’t like it, then let them go find another blog that doesn’t “upset” them with cursing. Be you sweet, kind, caring, and amazing self–no matter what people think. I laugh the hardest when reading your blog when you are cursing while telling a funny story. I have actually thought before “I wish she did that more!”. See yourself and keep kicking major ass. 😉

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:14 AM

      I love that I made you laugh! Makes me happy. Thanks for reading Kaylee.

      • Kaylee
        February 16, 2013 at 4:36 AM

        You’re welcome. I can’t wait to be able to implement more of your advice when I have kids of my own!

  • Barb
    February 14, 2013 at 6:44 AM

    I do not judge you or think that using curse words in your posts are offensive. Like you said, they color the story and personally I think that it makes it feel like we are chatting in the same room. that is what I love about your blog. I personally also curse on my blog but also only when it just feels right for the story. You can’t please everyone. It was very nice that you even posted with an explanation, because really you don’t owe that to anyone. This is YOUR blog and you can do whatever the HELL you want =) Keep up the great job!

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:13 AM

      Thanks so much Barb.

  • Kerri
    February 14, 2013 at 8:40 PM

    I LOVE LOVE LOVE that you cuss, make fun of yourself and show the world what a fun genuine person you are. When i first came across your blog My eyes widened and I laughed out loud – I had never come across a cussing blogger! I immediaetly signed up and have been loving your posts ever since. I also cannot believe you have self righteous haters, personally I find a lot of bloggers too clean and boring. Keep on cussing Stephanie!

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 1:12 AM

      That is so funny! Yup, that’s me the cussing blogger! So glad you are here. 🙂

  • Angela
    February 15, 2013 at 1:48 AM

    Wow, it kills me that you have to even defend the fact you cuss! What self righteous a**holes come onto your blog and say, please stop acting like yourself! I’ve always thought of a blog as like an online personal journal that you’re willing to share with the world. That in of itself is amazing because it takes so much guts to share that with people. It bothers me that people try to tell you what to do on you’re own personal website. Anyways, I’ve always loved that you cussed! It’s like talking to one of my best friends! It totally makes you real! Keep up the cuss words!! Hell yeah!

    • Stephanie
      February 15, 2013 at 2:12 AM

      Sooo glad to hear that Angela!

  • Laurie
    February 15, 2013 at 7:40 PM

    I don’t normally comment but this really irked me. I love your blog and your sassiness, including the curse words, and without it just wouldn’t be you. That’s the point of a blog, to share yourself and your stories. if you have to change that to please some people, then you are writing fiction – and if that’s what people are looking for, maybe their time would be better spent at the library. Keep being true to yourself and we’ll keep coming back! 🙂

    • Stephanie
      February 16, 2013 at 2:19 AM

      Thanks so much for commenting Laurie! And thanks for the encouragment, it means a lot to me.

  • TexasLea
    February 16, 2013 at 3:14 AM

    I’m a new reader to your blog but I have thoroughly enjoyed the posts I have read, curse words and all. I am not offended in the least. In fact, I think you’re pretty damn cool. Your in Florida right? Well, I’m in Texas and Florida is just as southern a state as mine, so next time someone gives you grief just whip out a little southern charm on them- smile real big and say “well bless your heart.” Not a single cuss word there, but it means every single one of them. 😉

    • Stephanie
      February 16, 2013 at 1:49 PM

      Good idea!

  • Leanne
    February 16, 2013 at 5:06 AM

    Stephanie, I don’t know if you’ve seen the video of the homeless hitchhiker, but when I saw it I thought of this post! You have no potty mouth at all compared to this guy!

  • Angie
    February 17, 2013 at 5:22 PM

    I just started reading your blog and have been totally entertained by your posts, lots of great information and recipies. I agree, people first need to lighten up. It seems pretty simple, if you dont like something that is being written, if it offends you, dont listen to it, dont read it, turn it off, close the computer and walk away. Why feel the need to put someone down or demand that they follow your value system? This is your blog and your postings, it should reflect who you are as a person. Secondly, as a reader, it does make you seem more “normal”. Its very easy in this age of pintrest, blogs and even facebook, for everyone to make their life sound wonderful, problem-free and Martha Stewart-like. I enjoy your posts because, cussing or not, you sound like someone I can relate to, and I like that. Not interested in perfection, but relateable.

    I do find it ridiculous when people who claim to be Christians feel the need to batter, threaten and bully people in the name of their “superior” beliefs. I will never cease to be amazed that those individuals never catch onto the irony of acting in an un-Christian like manner, to get someone else to believe in their Christian views and stop what they believe is un-Christian behavior. So, good for you for standing up to the bully and pointing out that bit of inconsistancy.

    Hang in there, continue with your amazing posts….its always easy to assume that those few who complain speak for the majority because they are louder and generally ruder. But that is not the case. 🙂

    • Stephanie
      February 17, 2013 at 5:32 PM

      Thanks so much Angie!

  • Cheryl
    February 17, 2013 at 6:10 PM

    I love to curse. You have my blessing.

    • Stephanie
      February 18, 2013 at 2:29 AM

      Lol, why thank you!

  • Megan
    February 18, 2013 at 10:18 PM

    Ohhh Mmmmm Geeee!!! Thank you for being REAL!!!

    • Stephanie
      February 19, 2013 at 3:41 AM

      Thanks for reading!!

  • Nana
    February 19, 2013 at 1:14 PM

    I’m a nana from the south who does cuss from time to time, but I have learned from my own experience that cussing really doesn’t serve me well. There’s always another way of being funny or making a point. I have learned that if my cussing turns off even one person then I’m not doing myself any favors by engaging in that form of communication. After all, cussing is really not necessary. I’m sixty-five years old and still trying to improve myself so shoot I’ll try to stop cussing if y’all will!

    • Stephanie
      February 19, 2013 at 2:59 PM

      I disagree. In fact, this is the whole point of my post. You may want to re-read the post if that point wasn’t clear to you. The reason I cuss is because there is no other way of being funny or making a point the same way with out cussing. For me. You might have a funnier way, but nothing tells a story quite like a little cussing for me. And this is my blog. If cussing doesnt serve you well, then by all means, don’t cuss. But you don’t get to come here and say that there is absolutely another way of being funny or making a point.

  • Leila
    February 19, 2013 at 7:39 PM

    Well shit, I came here to get your e-book and I am enjoying the hell out of your sight!

    • Stephanie
      February 20, 2013 at 1:27 AM

      awesome!! welcome to M+BL!

  • Amy
    February 22, 2013 at 7:58 PM

    oh man I LOVE you! I haven’t read thru all your comments, because usually people only respond with nasty comments to a post like this (a little two faced if you ask me), but I LOVE swearing too! It makes me happy, helps me express myself, and within reason (like you’ve mentioned above) it’s okay every once in awhile! I should also say, I’m LDS, and I apologize for all the close minded LDS people who think life is black and white, which is not my experience at all, life is full of a million different shades of grey. They need to worry about their own sins instead of shaming people into believing their point of view. We all makes choices based on our life experiences and point of view, and we need to love each other and judge less. Keep being who you are! I love it!

    • Stephanie
      February 22, 2013 at 8:21 PM

      Thanks so much Amy! I have actually recieved almost all positive support! I was pretty amazed and relieved!

  • michelle
    March 2, 2013 at 3:07 AM

    Just wandered across you looking for some breastfeeding support, I have a 2 yearold not the least bit interested in weaning, but that is another topic for another day. Thanks for making me laugh, or should I say lmao!

    • Stephanie
      March 2, 2013 at 3:13 AM

      Thanks for reading! If it makes you feel any better I have a three year old with no interest in weaning either. 🙂

  • Michele
    March 21, 2013 at 8:39 PM

    Just stumbled upon your blog. I am amazed that this is even an issue. If people don’t like what they read, why don’t they just leave and read something else. I doubt someone forced them to stick around, judge someone else, post a comment while hiding behind a computer screen, since they are so perfect in every way, I’m sure. Anyway, I’m finding some useful articles on your site. My Grandma is 96 and still watches Jerry Springer, and she’s not a bad person. So I’m assuming just because you cuss, doesn’t make you a bad person either. lol

    • Stephanie
      March 22, 2013 at 4:48 PM

      That is so funny about your Grandma!!

  • Emily
    April 12, 2013 at 10:35 PM

    Hello, newbie here…

    Just curious, because I am not Catholic, how is it considered a sin to cuss AT someone but not a sin to use curse words in other speech? That seems confusing to me. In my christian beliefs, sin is sin. Not judging you or anything like that- it’s just that I have never heard that before and I was raised around quite a few catholic communities in CA and TX.- varying in degree of catholocism.. My hubby, who is a minister, would be quite curious as well if you don’t mind sharing. Just want to learn something new! Thanks 🙂

    • Stephanie
      April 13, 2013 at 10:23 PM

      Because when you say shit! about stubbing your toe, you are not hurting anyone. But if you call someone a bitch (cursing at someone) you are hurting them. Being hurtful is what is sinful. God doesn’t care if you say shit because you stubbed your toe, only if you call someone else a shit head. Make sense? 🙂

  • Doreen
    April 30, 2013 at 7:39 PM

    Stephanie, never let anyone steal your sunshine! I LOVE reading your blog! I have laughed and cried along with you and your readers. Please don’t change. One of the reason’s (and there are many) I come to visit you here is the way you write your stories of life, love and sadly loss. I am but one person, but i am not offended by the occasional cuss word that finds it’s way into a story. I will continue to visit M+BL. Thanks for listening. 🙂

    • Stephanie
      May 1, 2013 at 3:18 AM

      Thanks for reading Doreen!

  • Anonymous
    May 2, 2013 at 10:09 PM

    I spent four years in the Navy and have heard almost everything anyone can dish out. I must say that I have very little to no tolerance at all for the f-bomb (or any of its more “polite” variants). It (and all the vulgarities that refer to anatomy) remind me of my father, who was a porn addicted misogynist. I thought of him when you spoke of the wrong in using words to curse at someone or in a hurtful way. The only attitude he managed to inculcate in me was a severe dislike of such hateful speech.

    I don’t cuss. You never know what baggage someone carries when you meet them. The Apostle Paul tells of how he avoided certain behaviors, not because they were wrong for him, but rather because of the scandal they might give to others. Some people will turn you off before you ever get a chance to share your story or listen to theirs.
    God bless and keep you and yours, Stephanie.


  • Lori
    May 19, 2013 at 1:21 AM

    I came across your blog today from a Freezer Cooking pin. It went to today’s home page where the article was on energy healing. I confess – I rolled my eyes. I scrolled down looking for freezer cooking stuff and there under the Editor’s Pick was this article. Potty Mouth? Okay now you’ve got my attention….

    Your comments “I have always been blessed with the ability to be real and tell the truth. I don’t know how to function any other way. When communicating I don’t know how to lie, or filter, or tone things down, or beat around the bush.” have really got me thinking. I have the same “challenges” but have never really thought of it as… well… a blessing or a gift before. I usually apologize and sometimes blame it on my ADD. And when people say “that’s okay we know that’s just how you are”, I don’t tend to take that as a compliment. But now… now I think I’m just going to smile and say Thank You. Because I am pretty awesome. (Okay maybe that part I’ll just say in my inside (my head) voice)

    • Stephanie
      May 21, 2013 at 12:59 AM

      You ARE awesome! So glad to hear you are claiming your power back! Lots of love to you and thanks for stopping by and reading, despite the eye rolling. 🙂

  • Fleur
    May 22, 2013 at 3:59 AM

    I just read this.. I read something the other day that said “people who swear (or say “f”) a lot are the most honest people out there” I am a christian, and I swear! I can not stand people swearing in general conversation or around children etc.. but like you I would never swear at someone, but when I am cooking and drop something on the floor or burn something.. believe me the f-bomb will be used and frankly it just shows a bit of passion!

    Something I find really funny, I was working with a jewish guy who used to scorn me for eating pork every so often but had no problem saying “Jesus” or “Jesus Christ” “God” as profanity around me, so one day I said.. “if you would like me to stop eating bacon around you, maybe you could stop using “Jesus” or “Jesus Christ” “God” as profanity around me” He didn’t know what to say, because he had been so concerned about his own beliefs he had forgotten that other people had different beliefs!

    Good on you for posting this! I love your blog!

    • Stephanie
      May 22, 2013 at 2:13 PM

      What a great story, thanks for sharing!

  • Jess
    June 2, 2013 at 9:42 PM

    I kept coming to this site, in part, because you curse. It’s real. It’s funny. It’s smart. Even Tony Robbins recommends it! The world is complex, and shiny-happy-Stepford language is not enough to accurately describe things. Sometimes things are shitty, and part of living a full and honest life includes having and using words like shitty to articulate our experience. Keep it up. I know I will 🙂

    • Stephanie
      June 3, 2013 at 8:07 PM

      Well, hot damn! I didn’t know that! Love him!

  • Leighanna Lane
    June 8, 2013 at 4:31 PM

    I quickly glanced at this post when it 1st came out. I just wanted to share with you that you are so relatable to my life and your journey( curse words included) inspires me to be a better mom. I am not a conventional mom yet I am. I go to church and I curse. I eat shitty food and I don’t. I have been following you since I became pregnant with my 2nd child a girl, and I am so inspired by what you are doing for your family and your daughter. I think you are an incredible mom and I want to thank you for sharing your blog and ideas with us!

    Love, Leighanna

    • Stephanie
      June 10, 2013 at 12:55 AM

      Aw, thanks so much for your comment. It made my night! Lots of love to you!

  • jessica Ibarguen
    June 15, 2013 at 11:32 PM

    WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love it! I

  • Mary Roach
    June 25, 2013 at 5:55 PM

    My blessed, much beloved mother, may God rest her soul, once said, “It’s alright to say bullshit!” She was a wonderful, genuine Christian woman. If she says it’s alright to say a (particular) curse word, then who am I to judge, dangit!

  • Auree
    July 2, 2013 at 10:37 PM

    Thank you for writing this blog entry. I refer everyone who is offended by my well placed cursing to it. I really enjoy your blog.

    • Stephanie
      July 3, 2013 at 10:47 AM


  • Brandie
    July 19, 2013 at 2:36 AM

    I love that you curse. If you acted perfect and fit into a pretty little box, I probably wouldn’t be interested in this blog. Aren’t we all unique individuals with our own strengths and weaknesses and idiosyncracies? If your life was perfect, this blog would make me feel like crap about myself. Instead, I feel like there are other great moms, sometimes stumbling- often succeeding, who strive to be the best they can be while still being true to who they are. Be true to you, girl!

    • Stephanie
      July 19, 2013 at 4:14 AM

      Thanks Brandi!!

  • Cristy
    July 19, 2013 at 5:44 PM

    Every year for Lent I say I am giving up curse words…so I try my gosh darn hardest( see how I did that? 😉 ) to not say fuck or fucking shit ( my faves) and every year I make it about half a day. I also consider myself a nice person but I can’t help what comes out of my mouth when I stub my toe and am on three hours of sleep! Personally, I feel judging another is way less Christian than saying a harmless curse word towards yourself…

  • Sarah
    July 29, 2013 at 11:53 PM

    If it isn’t a part of your vocabulary already “RAT BASTARD!” shouted when things go awry is always satisfying. Never at anyone, of course, but at traffic lights or when you drive across town to a store that closed five minutes ago..for when the f-bomb is overkill really 🙂

  • Lindsey
    August 3, 2013 at 10:19 PM

    I’m not a blogger at all. Don’t write them, read, follow, and rarely comment on them. I found yours because I was looking for healthy recipes and spied the title of your Potty Mouth post and strayed from my recipe search to look… sooo glad I did because, oh my goodness! For reals? I am DIEING that someone wouldn’t buy your cookbook because you swear. Did you tell her that you just gave a signed copy to the preacher or whoever at her church and ask her if she pre-screens everything she buys to see if it was made or created by someone who swears? How sad for her that she would miss out on something good for HER because the author sometimes swears. Also (I can say this because I AM LDS, totally go to church every week, yada yada) whoever “reported” you is totally L-A-M-E LAME! Like what are they going to do? Tell the missionaries to come over and bug you because you flipping curse? That’s hilarious! I think people are more drawn to anyone whose voice is genuine, curse words and all. Last thing & I’ll shut up, but even this non-blogger has heard of – one of the highest traffic blogs ever & written by a girl who was raised LDS, lives in Utah and totally totally swears! Thanks for the laugh and the great recipes. All my luck to you!

    • Stephanie
      August 4, 2013 at 6:56 PM

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting Lindsey! I know it’s so funny.

  • Brooke
    August 10, 2013 at 2:27 AM

    I am just a random person who got here looking at your slow cooker book and wound up here, I am going to chime in in defense of the people who were kind in their response to your “cursing”. (there is no excuse for the the rude people!) I am like “those” people- the nice ones, hopefully! I will unsubscribe to a blog for frequent use of “bad” language. NOT because I am thinking, ” What a horrible person! Can’t they control their tongue!?”, but because MY enjoyment of their blog dramatically decreases. I, personally, choose not to use certain language because it just doesn’t fit who I am and what I am representing. (my faith) When I read or listen to a LOT of “bad” language in just sort of bangs around in my head and irritates me, so I avoid it. I’ll bet the people who contacted you love your blog, your personality and get a lot of enjoyment out of being here, but the occasional language you use feels a little uncomfortable to them. It is THEIR issue- for good or bad. They are just hoping you will make it easier for them to read your blog. If you really want them to read your blog regularly hold back a little for them. If you don’t care who follows you and just want to say what you want in the way that feels comfortable to you that is also your right. It is your blog. You get to decide what you write, and we get to decide what we read.

    Still thinking about that cook book, but I am so slow about deciding anything. Have a great day! I may be back soon. Looks like you have some great information here. 🙂

    p.s. I find it funny when people get in a huff and go around calling people “judgmental”. What are people doing when they do that? PASSING JUDGMENT. You aren’t supposed to judge…or are you?

  • Dodi
    August 12, 2013 at 1:44 PM

    Wanted to chime it…another LDS reader! LOL! I enjoy your site and am much more interested in the recipes and picking out the things I can share to help make my adult daughters life easier, than counting curse words! Don’t have time (or desire) to be sanctimonious! I use the energy to serve others and myself instead! Please continue to BE YOURSELF. There will always be someone unhappy about something….that is their choice. BYE to them.

  • The Joe Show
    August 20, 2013 at 5:49 PM

    Thank you for posting this. This is a great article and one that I can relate too. In my real life – not my writing/blogging life – I swear like a truck driver who’s been on the open road for months. I swear alone, in front of people, and when I argue with the rude lady in line at Target. What I don’t do usually – is swear in my blog because I am worried that I may offend readers and they won’t come back. What I am doing is not being true to myself. Writing is an art – a form of expression – and truly the way that I express myself. If I need to explain a situation and the only way I can is by saying F&%* then so be it. If people don’t like it – don’t read it. I hope you decide to stay true to yourself and the way you want to express yourself. Don’t let people bully you into being someone you aren’t when you write. Thank you.

  • Mandy White
    August 26, 2013 at 7:36 AM

    It sucks that you have to compromise to please people to fulfill their agenda. Selfish people. I have a potty mouth, one that goes ghetto every time my twin sister and I are together, and I am often apologetic because I know it is offensive to some. Just like if a smoker decides to light up and smoke during your conversation and you despise cigarettes. But, just like I have the right to avoid that smoker, people have the right to avoid me; and that is their right. I prefer honest expressions.. I love the word asshat, which I just learned and will add to my arsenal of funny curse words. I know there is the perfect time and place and use for that word, and I will be ever so thankful I read this blog. Try not to change too much to please others; you may not like who they shape you out to be. Your mold is already perfect.

    • moe
      September 10, 2013 at 7:47 PM

      Fortunately, curse words don’t kill anyone. Cigarettes do! lol.

  • Rayzel Lam
    August 31, 2013 at 11:52 PM

    This was a thoughtful blogpost- I don’t have much to say because I’m kind of new to your blog, but the one thing that I guess I think of is that I listen to a lot of podcasts etc, and I always appreciate when the hosts keep it super clean because then I can allow my 4 year old son to listen in without worry. Even though blogging is not the same as audio or video, and my son can’t read yet, he’ll get to that point, and he really wants to learn and be a part of everything I’m doing, and I really do have to stick with things that are I guess you could say are “family safe” meaning it can be on for anyone to read or hear with no worries about the content. You seem to have a lot of super helpful creative posts and obviously have a great personality- keep up the good work! Also I am very sorry to hear about your miscarriage- I can’t even begin to imagine what an awful time that must have been. Thank you for sharing your life with others. Take care.

  • moe
    September 10, 2013 at 7:56 PM

    You are, in fact….a very nice person (because I just know that after reading like 3 posts. LOL). I’m pretty firm when it comes to my blog, and I feel as though I shouldn’t have to compromise. I guess much of that is my own stubbornness! As much as I hate to admit it, I could do with a little less F-Bombs in my vocabulary..BUT IT’S SO HARD! I’m just not for everyone, and I’m kind of ok with that.

    Anywho, I’m a new reader and I look forward to exploring your blog a bit more!

  • Beth
    September 12, 2013 at 7:50 PM

    Guess I’ll have to stop reading your blog because I only like blogs with lots of curse words, especially F-bombs. : *

  • Jenny
    September 30, 2013 at 8:50 PM

    I have to agree with everything Brooke just said above a few posts earlier. It’s not so much that I’m pondering (or judging) the type of person you are, but I prefer not to surround myself and find entertainment in the use of cuss words because there are other words that could be used to get the point across and be less offensive to those who choose not to be around it. Obviously, this thought is of the lessor consensus based on the other comments above. I can’t stand when I’m waiting in line at Wal-mart or Target with my two young kids and someone is using a cuss word, especially in a derogatory way. I know I can’t shield my kids from all nor do I do such a thing, it’s just annoying. I know I have no control over the outside world, but I do have a measure of control of what goes on in my home and what we choose to see/read. I, too, came here from another blog that linked to your recipes.

  • Eva
    October 12, 2013 at 10:53 PM

    Somebody “reported you” to the LDS church? (snicker) I’m as Mormon as they come and I don’t know how one would even go about doing such a thing. It’s not like we have swear word hotline.
    Anyway, I enjoy a good hell and damn every now and then so I’ll stick with you.

    • Stephanie
      October 13, 2013 at 11:22 PM

      lol, swear word hotline. love it! Thanks for sticking around.

  • Kim Throgmartin
    November 24, 2013 at 8:01 PM

    To this I say fuck that with a big middle finger to all who judge your blog and it’s content on the fact that you curse every now and again. I visit a lot of blogs that praise the lord and quote bible verses, which isn’t my thing and sometimes even offends me depending on the content, but I would never stop reading because I think you bloggers are doing me a favor. You offer FREE recipes, remedies, and advice all at the ready of my keyboard and browser. The world is full of people of all different walks of life and belief, be a little open minded and most of all don’t forget that these bloggers are providing a service to you. If offended by one’s cursing, move on to the next blog or stay off the internet. Go back to researching and collecting info at the library. As for me, I appreciate all the time and effort you bloggers put forth to make sure my family eats well. By the way, I did buy your slow cooker cookbook a couple weeks ago. I downloaded it on my phone, but need to download it again to my computer so I can print some of it and I can’t find the email. Is there anyway, I can get another download link? Thanks so much!

    • Stephanie
      November 25, 2013 at 2:38 PM

      lol, go back to researching and collecting info at the library, so funny!
      re your question, yes of course, just shoot me an email at [email protected] Thanks!

  • Natasha
    November 30, 2013 at 2:58 AM

    I love your blog, curses and all. I don’t think you should have to defend yourself against people who are obviously just being judgemental. Keep writing it the way you always have. If it fits the story, I say go for it.
    I’m a Feng Shui practitioner and I have studied aromatherapy and other healing modalities. I love reading your posts and I have learned so much from you. Keep up the good work. Love the blog, love the recipes!
    Alberta, Canada

    • Stephanie
      November 30, 2013 at 3:16 AM

      Thanks so much Natasha! And so glad you are here, I am huge fan of Feng Shui. 🙂

  • Shannon
    December 3, 2013 at 3:08 AM

    I know I’m late to this party, but we’ve recently experienced this dilemma in my home. My Kindergartener dropped the “F” bomb at school. We are (very liberal, non practicing) Catholic as well. My son attends a Presbyterian school, which is mostly non-religious educationally. So my response to the teacher was: ” we use the word all the time in the house! and we feel it’s just a word!” And……she agreed, and admitted to her own potty mouth. I was relieved, he also did not use it AT anyone. So I say……swear away, they are only words.

    • Stephanie
      December 3, 2013 at 5:33 PM

      Interesting! I am so nervous about when this day comes for us and Penelope! She is at a Montessori school right now and will eventually switch to the Catholic school here, so I think our game plan will just be she can use the words around us but not at school. I also wonder if the taboo will just eventually wear off. If you think about how much language has changed in the last 200 years. There are so many words that were just absolutely taboo back then or considered un proper English, but eventually it just all becomes apart of the current cultures venacular!

  • Audrey
    December 18, 2013 at 4:09 PM

    I didn’t even notice haha! What does that say about me?

    • Stephanie
      December 19, 2013 at 7:16 PM

      It’s says you a girl after my own heart!!

  • Amanda
    January 8, 2014 at 11:10 PM

    I have only recently discovered your blog through freezer-to-slow cooker Google searches (and thanks for spending so many words on that topic! I work second shift, so it’s a God-send), but I’ve basically binged on your posts trying to catch up, because I think you’re totally cool.

    I personally don’t understand the umbrage people have taken over your language. I’m also Catholic, and I also swear (within the same parameters you’ve placed on your swearing, except sometimes I swear at people when it’s funny and I know they don’t mind, but never in anger), but even if I wasn’t, here’s my take:

    People have every right to be offended by your swearing, to not read your blog (or your profanity-free and wonderful books) because of it, and even to tell you that they dislike it before they hit the road. What they don’t have is the right NOT to be offended, and that seems to be the underlying reason for the Facebook hate and reporting you to the LDS church (And whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa-? Does not compute.): to make the whole planet fall in line with their personal preferences so that they find it inoffensive as possible.

    Sorry, that’s not how the world works. I’m personally offended by all kinds of things (Twilight, Jell-O, Facebook posts featuring pictures of abused animals, all the other books in the Twilight series, canned mushrooms, any ad that assumes I’m an idiot… Jell-O.), but I’ve never tried to shame somebody into following the script I’ve written for my personal morality play. Either I look past the offensive veneer to find the heart of what someone’s saying or doing (often with great results), or I go elsewhere. You want to place your standards on someone else? That’s what your kids are for. (My kids, for example, will think Jell-O is used for making bombs.)

    Luckily for you, though, I swear like a drunken pirate. Yar! Love the blog.

    • Stephanie
      January 9, 2014 at 2:48 AM

      lol, you are offended by Twilight! Yar! Thanks so much for reading and commenting.

  • Linda
    January 18, 2014 at 2:52 PM

    I just ran across your blog looking for crock pot recipes and saw the title of this article and loved it. I love to curse (ALL of the words) and like you, mostly for comedic effect. This is a free country. And that’s what is great about it, you can pick and chose. I chose you and am I am subscribing to your blog.

    • Stephanie
      January 20, 2014 at 2:42 PM

      Awesome! Thanks Linda!

  • PJC
    January 19, 2014 at 1:47 PM

    I am a curser myself, love all of them, especially the f word. But now that I have a granddaughter I am trying to clean up my everyday speech. My son introduced me to the work frack and I like that, its almost like the f word yet a bit gentler. I’m going to try to start using that words, as in, people need to lighten the frack up.

    • Stephanie
      January 20, 2014 at 2:41 PM

      lol, frack. love it.

  • Kim Jorgensen Gane
    January 29, 2014 at 5:04 PM

    The comments here are cracking me up. This is YOUR space to process and share YOURSELF and YOUR experience. If someone doesn’t like it, they can get their own. I, on the other hand, got my first hate (like serious HATE) comments on my former blog (GlutenNaziMom) and I ended up shutting it down. But that was because I had already stopped blogging anything new there, and was trying to figure out how to delicately shut it down because two blogs was just too much. Turned out to be the impetus I needed, so fine. Maybe you don’t “look” like the cussing “type,” and that’s what some people didn’t get. Screw ’em. Be you. Unexpected is delicious!

    • Stephanie
      January 29, 2014 at 5:20 PM

      Other than people giving me shit for saying shit, I amazingly have had pretty good luck and not had to deal with “haters and trolls” here. Just like I surround my aura and light body with protection via prayer, mediation and visualization, I do that for this online space too.

  • Pamela
    February 7, 2014 at 7:29 PM

    I love you, love you, love you, and I just decided right here with this post to follow your blog. And I so wish I were lucky enough to be one of your friends. You go, girl!

    • Stephanie
      February 11, 2014 at 2:40 PM

      Thanks so much Pamela!!

  • Di
    February 8, 2014 at 11:16 AM

    I don’t believe crap, pissed and suck are actually swear words but rather considered to be in the crass category. Bugger is not at all the same as the b word – completely different but perhaps in Europe or Australia it is? ” d*MN and hell” seemed to be looked down upon in Christian communities due to the nature of how it’s generally used since only God can d*MN someone to hell and I certainly wouldn’t ask God to do so . I used to swear once in awhile because outside of taking God’s name in vain, they were merely words made essentially to mean crass things. when I became a mom that totally changed. I disliked being around people who swore all the time anyhow (my coworker would swear like every other word) & I realized that having to put up with it for so long those were the words that immediately came to mind when I went to say something and they would frequently pop out accidentally. Being laid off due to down economy ( forcing many lay offs), was a blessing and my ears were no longer bleeding. I always used the word stupid and thought nothing of it. As my daughter has gotten older even hearing words from her like ” stupid” made me cringe because it was so derogatory and I didn’t want her to think it was ok to call people that. I avoid saying swear words in general so that they won’t slip out in front of my children. I try not to be hypocritical to my kids. I know so many parents who swear but then discipline their kid for doing it ( hello? Where do you think they learned it?) I try to do the same when it comes to other areas as well. I don’t eat junk food, drink alcohol or even Caffenated beverages, smoke cigarettes (or anything else for that matter), watch TV or movies that are inappropriate for them & then say that “it’s only for adults”. I have found in general that if it’s not good for them, then it’s usually not good for me anyhow. I want to live it not just say it. I want my kids to know I mean what I say and develop habits based on what they see and what is caught vs just taught because that is what will actually stay with them. Having said all that I would still not tell you what you can or can’t say on your own blog. If the swear words were popping up in my head after reading your blog, I would just stop reading it because I would see it for the stumbling block that is was. However perhaps the unkind ones (even tho it could have been handled nicer) did you a favor so you would understand why you were losing readers & to give you opportunity to make adjustments if you so desired.

  • Shannon
    March 5, 2014 at 6:28 PM

    We call them strong words. I am not naïve enough to think my children are never going to encounter these words in their lives and have tried to prepare them (especially for when they hear them from me). I believe when people use these words they either are trying to convey a strong emotion or are trying to get attention (humor falls within those, too). They are words, they are not sins, and their power lies within their context. I want my kids to understand this and when it’s appropriate to use them (not in front of people they don’t know and not in front of little kids). I don’t want them to freak out when they hear them and I don’t want them to go overboard when their friends discover them and go through the stage of every other word needs to be a strong word to prove you’re “mature.” I also have added a few other words, like “stupid,” that they need to be aware of how they are using and not to use them to make people feel bad. Words are not bad, using them to make people feel bad is and those words aren’t always taboo. If you are boycotting a blog because of a few swear words, you are giving the words more power. I’m glad you will still use the words you deem appropriate for your blog and I also can’t think of a word more fitting for your miscarriage post. Thank you for sharing your thought process in this post.

    • Stephanie
      March 6, 2014 at 2:05 PM

      Well said Shannon!

  • Amy Carter
    March 21, 2014 at 1:13 AM

    Stephanie I think you are amazing! I love that you speak your mind and that you do not try and just put forth a pretty face to make people happy. This life can be shitty enough without people tattling on each other and pointing fingers. I have never found any of your posts to be offensive and I commend you for being real. For me it’s beautiful. You get me and I feel comforted reading your posts. As for those that are offended, well, maybe this just isn’t the blog for them. For me, I feel at home. I ordered the tapping book, have been working on my diet and my emotional connections to food, have been evaluating the food that I am feeding my family, and making a concentrated effort to tell my children I am sorry, to work through my issues as best I can without dumping them into their little laps, and reminding myself to just love them. You are helping me do that. I thank God for your blog and that I stumbled across it. I know that I am supposed to be here and I am so thankful that I am.

    • Stephanie
      March 24, 2014 at 1:54 PM

      Thanks so much for taking the time to write me Amy! I am so happy to hear about all your progress! Keep up the good work! And thanks so much for being a loyal reader, to be able to share with you and other women means the world to me.

  • Cori
    April 8, 2014 at 11:24 AM

    I am a new visitor to your blog, I learned about you from the mom conference (fyi loved you class!) and I love how you write like you speak. This is life, say what you want! 🙂

    • Stephanie
      April 8, 2014 at 12:11 PM

      Thanks Cori! And welcome to M+BL! So glad you are here. 🙂

  • Violeta
    April 8, 2014 at 7:19 PM

    I’m new to your blog, found it while looking for crock pot freezer recipes. I’m preparing for when our 6th baby arrives, God willing our 2nd homebirth! 😀 I’m due April 24th but it can happen any day now. I have to prep meals because I do this 40 day care thing after my births.

    ANYWAY, my point, I’ve read some of your posts and I love them! I’m a devout Catholic and try to lead a good Catholic life. Honestly though, I’m still human and fail and trip up and sometimes cuss! And can I let you in on a secret? I used to hardly ever cuss at all, ever…until a year and a half into dating my husband at the age of 24. It’s like we switched. I got him to control his constant cussing and now he hardly ever does (but gives me a look when I do) and I who rarely cussed will say hell or shit about once or twice a week. It’s true though, my vocabulary isn’t limited but other words just don’t cut it. My mother is the most blunt yet truthful and honest person I know. People either love her or hate her, sadly there is no in between. People can’t understand how someone who goes to Mass regularly and prays so much can be so “rude” and even cuss. She tells it how it is without filter and the majority of people don’t understand that. One of my 3 brothers shares that same quality 🙂 Haha! And if we go to Mass and pray often it’s because we are aware that we are sinners and need all the help we can get, not because we believe we’re better than anyone. Quite the contrary.

    God bless you Stephanie! I love what I’ve read about you and thank God you have been able to use your experiences to help others. That is such a blessing and beautiful thing. I’m so sorry about your miscarriage. I’ve never had one, thank God, but our 4th was stillborn. I gave birth to her at 30 weeks pregnant and it was the most difficult thing for my husband, children, and I to go through. We didn’t let it makes us bitter, we prayed and asked God to help us accept His holy will fully. It seems you did the same and turned around to help others. Bitterness may creep in and this world can be pretty crappy but it is also beautiful with much to offer. God bless you again and carry on! No one has to be here if they don’t want to and can’t stand your methods of communication. The world needs more happy, helping individuals like you!!

    • Stephanie
      April 9, 2014 at 12:29 AM

      Lol, sounds like your mother and I are cut from the same cloth! Thanks so much for your kind words and encouragement. Lots of love to you and your family!! Your upcoming home birth will be in my prayers.

  • Jennifer bralow
    April 12, 2014 at 12:57 PM

    Hi, I know this post is old but I felt I needed to respond. I just found your site. While I am not a new mama, I am a mom to four (including twins). I cuss ALL the time. I am educated. BUT like you never cuss AT people in anger ( okay, I’m sure I have a few times). My kids are older now with the youngest(twins) being 10. I have explained to them if the drop something or stub a toe and say “shit” or “damn” I wouldn’t get upset, especially since I do it and stubbing toes hurt like a bitch. At 45 years old, those who know and like me , great. Those who don’t, oh well. I don’t give a fuck. Life is to short to worry. Its your site/ blog. Fucking cuss if you want too.

    • Stephanie
      April 13, 2014 at 2:28 PM

      Lol, I love you. Thanks for the support Jennifer. My thoughts exactly!

  • Steffanie
    April 26, 2014 at 6:05 AM

    Dude, it’s your blog. Say what you will. I laugh every time I see the quote from Downton Abbey: Vulgarity is no excuse for wit. Yea right! I heard your shit’s get beeped out of your Mom Conference presentation and thought it was awesome and laughed a lot! I cuss, not in front of my son (he’s 2), when my stories need it. My husband makes me feel so unworthy when I use curse words but that’s me. I love your blog, just found it today after I listened to your presentation. I’m so with you, I hate to cook but love to bake. Going to try out some of your recipes. Keep it up!!

    • Stephanie
      April 27, 2014 at 4:24 PM

      How funny was that?! It was like an episode of the Jon Stewart show with all the bleeping. Can’t take my ass anywhere. Especially to a Moms Conference. 🙂

  • Carrie Ann
    January 30, 2015 at 10:50 AM

    Not gonna lie. I am disappointed that you “compromised” at all. The internet is a free place. No one has to read what you write and if, instead of buggering off elsewhere, they take the time to scold you for being different from them, that is their personal defect and not yours. I used to live in Ireland and remember walking past school yards where children were dropping the f-bomb without any kind of reprimand. Swearing just wasn’t what it is here in America. It emphasizes that, in the end, they are just words. The only power they have is the power people invest in them. If you are using them to be funny, which is what I typically use them for, you are doing nothing wrong. If you use them because no other word has the proper impact, you are doing nothing wrong. If you use them because you WANT to use them, you are doing nothing wrong! I am a dirty agnostic, unsure of my own feelings, so perhaps this can be thrown back at me for not finding swearing to be something to get your panties in a bunch over, but I am a mom and I do my best not to use those words in front of my son. I just don’t want that kindergarten parent teacher conference where I find out it’s my kid doing the educating in terms of f-bombs and douche bags. Then again, a secret part of me wouldn’t be upset at all during that meeting! Anyway. Moral of my ramblings; you should write what you want no matter what someone says. Especially when the root of their malfunction is that they have different beliefs than you and, rather than accept said difference, they try to conform you to their ideal. Never fall into that trap. It’s so slippery and will be a detriment to your growth as a writer. Best of luck!

  • Peg
    September 26, 2015 at 4:46 PM

    Thanks for being your real self. I personally believe God has quite a great sense of humor about our humanity, and loves and accepts us just the way we are.

  • Judene
    July 4, 2016 at 9:04 PM

    I’m not going to lie, the first blog post I read was your miscarriage post right after I had one myself and your cuss words were the only thing that made me smile in days. For that I am eternally grateful to you. I also find you to be incredibly inspiring because you are your real self, something that I strive towards and role models like you help me so much.

    And as a side note, in the Bible, Jesus talks about the hypocrisy of the High Priests because they were passing judgement on others. Passing judgement on others today is just as hypocritical as it was when Jesus addressed it.