“Mention that you are planning a home birth and it might be as if you had just brought up Sarah Palin or Palestine: brace for family feuds, public denunciations, and offhand remarks that imply you are selfish and stupid, your midwife is a quack, and your unborn child is a victim already in need of social services.”
This resonated with me, because an all out family war practically started when we announced we were having a home birth. My aunt was the most un-supportive, she herself having two cesarean births for “big babies.” Only after I birthed Penelope, all 9 pounds, 1 ounce of her, safely and WITHOUT tearing, did she say she may possibly rethink her stance on whether home birth is safe. The rest of our family came around while I was pregnant, partly because the numerous emails I sent them referencing all the studies that show that home birth is safe for healthy, low-risk pregnancies.
I also got lots of “wow, you are so BRAVE!” and I thought that was interesting too. I didn’t feel that I had an extra amount of courage than the average woman. I didn’t feel like I had special powers that others did not. This is another article I like, titled Home Birth: Brave Has Nothing To Do With It.
What your experience like if you planned a home birth?